Talking About Suicide: Healing and Helping with the Right Words
When one talks about suicide, the language we use matters.
In recent years, there has been a shift away from phrases like "committed suicide" and “suicide victim” to more person-centered language, such as “died by suicide” and “took their life.” The rationale: to humanize the individual and reduce the stigma associated with suicide.
A Historical Perspective
The phrase "committed suicide" originates from a time when suicide was seen as a criminal act. The term "committed" was used in relation to illegal actions. Our understanding of mental health issues and suicide has advanced significantly since then. Today, mental health and suicide are widely recognized as a complex public health concern, and people are encouraged to talk about them openly.
Phrases like "committed suicide" appear judgmental and imply that suicide is a “choice”. This terminology further stigmatizes individuals who may be experiencing mental health challenges and discourages open discussions about suicide prevention and support.
In an effort to promote empathy and reduce the stigma, alternative phrases have emerged. Terms like "died by suicide" or "took their own life" are now the norm. These words describe the act in a non-judgmental way and foster greater compassion for those struggling with underlying mental health issues that could potentially lead to suicide.
Why Is The Language We Use Important?
Language plays a critical role in shaping attitudes and perceptions. The shift towards more sensitive and “politically correct” terminology is part of a broader effort to promote mental health awareness and support those affected by suicide.
It is generally recommended to use the term "suicide" as this specific term helps to address the issue openly and honestly.
When discussing suicide, be mindful of the potential impact the conversation could have on individuals who have experienced suicidal thoughts or have lost someone to suicide. Be prepared to provide appropriate resources and support if a person admits to you that they have had suicidal thoughts. You don’t have to solve the problem yourself; but pointing them to expert resources is an important way to help.
It's worth noting that these new guidelines may vary depending on cultural, regional, or personal preferences. It is always best to listen to the specific needs and preferences of the individuals or communities you are engaging with while discussing sensitive topics like suicide, but never close the door to hope, treatment or dialog that can help save a life.
For more information and tips on how to talk about suicide, visit the www.zerosuicidesnh.org website and read the “Frequently Asked Questions” section: Frequently Asked Questions About Suicide — NH Coalition for Suicide Prevention (zerosuicidesnh.org).